Conflicts with Dualities

 I already talked about the dualities and their co-existence in some earlier post as oxymorons. In this post, let me delve a further into these very aspects. There are always conflicting opposites or dualism which exists in the world that leads to a lot of friction within us. Life would be smooth if there is a single direction or singularity. I write on something to spread my basic understanding and also for me to understand something much better. It is a good practice as I had felt it on many occasions. This exercise gives me enhanced clarity on the subject at hand. But I lack the singular general clarity and suffer with conflicting qualities. This is particularly striking for me as I am always struck with the heavy influence of dualism. Now I am writing on this lack of clarity to get some clarity. A person with clarity will not think more about anything. I am on this thinking spree due to this conflict within myself and lack of acting clarity. Whenever there are dualities, there are two opposites co-existing which eats your brain. The struggle of any person is to get the clarity and lead a smooth, settled life. Some of the conflicts are due to:

Theory vs Practical

We hear a lot of theoretical postulates which doesn’t hold ground in practical living. One of it is leading a life like ‘Ram’ when the world around you is opposite. This is a big conflict for me and always has lot of energy consumed in deciding if I am right. Even the blog I started after coming to U.S. on this subject is a doubt many a times if I had taken correct step. I fear if I end up like a hypocrite in the pursuit of doing the right thing. There is always being morally correct and doing the right thing even if it is morally wrong. There is always this dilemma if the stand I had taken is correct or not, not just for me but for anyone else who might get influenced after reading it. It isn’t about me alone. In practical life, you end up saying that, the best principle to have is not to have any principle. The best ideology to have is not to have any ideology. I am leading one of a kind of life where principles, ideologies and words have room to change from time to time. Life would be smoother if I get clarity and stick to practical living like anyone else. The conflict comes when you want to put this theory into practical commercial world. The friction, pain gets compounded when you are in ripe age in pursuit of money, success, achievements in a western world. The friction, pain gets compounded when you are lingering between the stand you had taken and whether it is good for you at least. Living with principles does me any good or in their absence in this phase of my life? People call this outdated old school theory which has no room in 21st century. The result of all this is the conflict between my two dual inner selves to lead me into the correct path.


Virtual Vs Reality

I sometimes feel like I have spent enough time virtually through social media and time has come to become real. I term myself as virtual social media star operating multiple blogs in online space and there should be a transition to real world by still being a virtual person. There has to be progress by progressing into complete reality. It is like tell me it is real without telling me it is real. How can I achieve real things by being a virtual person is the dualistic dilemma? I have caused enough misery in this world and the apparent offset, outlet for it all is to become real and do something really good. This gets me to the position of getting the results of real action while being anonymous. It is like you cannot afford the ill-effects of being real, remain virtual but get the results of reality. The mixture and co-existence of these opposite poles is a conflict in itself.


Hard work vs smart work

This is once again a conundrum if I need to work assiduously by considering the priorities or work smartly without a lot of labor effort. I cannot bulldoze and yet be a bulldozer. I cannot work hard and yet be a hard worker. I cannot cool off and yet remain cool. You need the results of all these without being all these. Tell me you are a hard worker without telling me you are a hard worker. I need to work hard without working hard. Life stares at these conflicting dualities wide open and I cannot take a position clearly. It results in periodic reviews to see if I am on correct path. Too many variables at the outset with so much there to be desired.


Rich guy vs Poor guy

This is the distinction between lifestyles of a poor eastern fakir and rich Western worker. Which one do you clearly adapt in your life without losing the other is the puzzle. You are living in a big city but you cannot let go off the eastern mysticism while craving for western riches. The want of both these worlds is once again an ongoing conflicting dualism in action. It is akin - tell me you are rich without telling me you are rich.

The list goes on – Crazy vs Sane, Performance vs Non-performance, India vs U.S., Dream vs Reality, Imagination vs Reality as this is experienced in many other aspects as well. This oxymoronic infighting is particularly moronic in recent times. These dualities when processed incessantly should lead you to a singular outcome to follow. It has to do with the want of best of both the sides. This will continue till I give up on either of the sides without latching onto both. The main point of this write-up is to get some clear understanding, clarity and direction to operate smoothly without these conflicting dualities eating you up all along.